DiaryINDEX｜past｜will
| 2003年09月02日(火) | 子育てで親がおかしがちな五つの間違い |
金子みすずさんの詩に草の名というのがあって、人の知ってる草の名は、私は
ちっとも知らないの、人の知らない草の名を、私はいくつも知ってるの、それは
私がつけたのよ、好きな草には好きな名を、人の知ってる草の名も、どうせ誰かが
つけたのよ、とあるのを読んで、私も裏庭に咲いた白い草花を、白鷺と呼ぶことに
してしまいました。
この人の詩は確かに素敵なのですが、ただいつも心配になってしまうのは、みんな違ってみんないい、と語った人がどうして自ら。。と思うのです。
5 common mistakes parents often make
Every parent wants to be the best parents for their children. They make lots of efforts for being the best but sometimes their efforts have no fruitful results. Then they end of thinking for hours what went wrong.
Well thinking this is mine we have listed 5 common mistakes parents make. These are not the standard and final mistakes. But few points pointed down from parent's and expert's experiences raising about children.
1) Short-sighted Parenting近視眼的な子育て
You should raise your 3-year-old not to be a successful toddler, but to be a successful adult. This means parents should let their children make mistakes, let them learn from mistakes and let them encounter situations which parents would rather protect them from. When children face bullies, for example, there is a tendency for parents to rush in. But at some point this 7-year-old will be 27 and will have a boss who is a bully, so the child has to learn for himself how to cope. Help the child solve his problems, but don't solve them for him.
あなたの３歳の子を成功した幼児ではなくて立派な大人に育てなくてはいけないのですから、親は子供に失敗をさせてあげなければならない、守ってやりたいと思われるところを敢えて子供を直面させて失敗から学ぶようにしてやらなければいけません。子供たちが乱暴ものやいじめっこにあったりすると、親は慌ててしまう
傾向があります。しかしある程度今７歳であるこの子は２７歳になったらいじめっこのような上司を持つことになるだろうことを思えば、子供は自分自身で問題を解決する必要があるのです。子供が直面した問題を解決できるように助けてあげて、しかしながら子供のために親が解決してやってはいけません。
2) Inadequate Supervision不適当な監督
Often parents due to busy lifestyle end up in inadequate supervision Children and especially younger children needs special supervision through out. In their growing years they are unfamiliar to many things so to keep a watch at them is really important.. You can supervise them in many ways. If your child is in daycare, make frequent, unannounced visits. If supervision is lacking, find another daycare, Hire a sitter or rearrange your work schedule. The bottom line: make sure someone is watching those kids.
3) Failing to Listen 子供の気持ちに耳を傾けないこと
Many parents are in too much of a hurry to slow down and really listen to what their child has to say. The fact is, parents don't know what's really going on until their child tells them. Don't ignore what your child is saying. Listen to him carefully. He needs your attention. By doing so you would know what is happening in his life, at school, in the play ground and so on.
4) Too Much TV 子供をテレビづけにしてしまうこと
Majority of parents let their children watch too much TV. This would glue them next to Tv always. They won't have the time left for playing or being with their friends due majority of time spend on watching TV. This would lead them to stay indoor most of the time which is not good for their development. Don't put the TV in their bedroom. Place the TV in a common room and sit with them when they watch TV. Make them to watch educational channels then films and music.
5) Arguing in Front of Children 子供の前で言い争うこと
A parent arguing in front of their children is a very damaging behavior. It gives an impression of disrespect between the couples. And seeing this they would also start disrespecting the parents. Parents should save heated discussions for times when the kids aren't around.
Written By Sweta Joshi---Excerpts from MSN ARABIA
