DiaryINDEX｜past｜will
| 2003年04月09日(水) | 前向き思考度 腹筋の志 |
This should be one of those feel good days. You feel good about your friends, smoothing ruffled feathers, your love relationship--and if there is none, you may feel good about finding one. The only things you do not feel good about are work and self-discipline--watch the finances! You may as well go on feeling good about everything else! Cooperation, support and service will bring you to a new level of life experience now. Be aware of what your motivations are and express yourself with no expectations of a return on your time or feelings. A time during which you could accomplish a lot through sheer discipline--control of your energy and drive. You may appear very at ease today. Your loved ones may find you especially fun to be with this evening.
How positive are you?
You have your ups-and-downs
You are generally positive about your life, but could do even better. Your medium score shows that in some areas of your life, you're not using all the strategies and skills that positive thinking has to offer. As a result, you're not only less happy than you could be, you're probably not as healthy, successful or effective.
So what can you do? You need to pinpoint the areas of your life you feel most negative about - and then gradually build up your strength in those areas.
In particular, look at your self-esteem. With high self-esteem you can cope with any difficulties that arise. So be kind to yourself; moment to moment, during the day, point out what you are doing right. Treat yourself like a friend and congratulate yourself on any successes.
Final point: because you're slightly prone to low positivity, a crisis or setback may plunge you into negativity. If a crisis strikes, don't hesitate to get extra support from friends, family or a counsellor.
Read Top ten tips for a positive life to develop useful positive strategies.
1. Most negative thoughts are based on a misinterpretation of the situation. If you feel negative, look around the situation. Are the facts on which you base your pessimism correct? Are you really judging other people accurately? Are you imagining the worst, with no actual reason for doing so? Try to shift your attitude to a more positive one.
状況を誤って解釈すると大概消極的な考え方になる。ネガティブな気分の時は、
周りの状況を見回してみること。あなたが悲観的になっている事実というのは
本当に正しいかどうか。人を誤解していないかどうか。実際にはたいした根拠も無く最悪の事態を想定しているのではないか。もっと積極的な態度を試みて。
2. Keep a daily thought diary. In it, note down key thoughts, with the circumstances that created them. For example, if you felt irritated at work, think about why and make a note of it. Think about your emotional reaction. It should help you learn which situations provoke a negative or positive reaction. Regularly re-read your diary to trace your thought patterns and gauge whether you are becoming more positive.
3. Alter your mental images. By exploring and developing your mental representations you can feel much better about yourself and life. For example, if you're feeling resentful towards your partner, imagine him as a small child who needs a hug. If you feel threatened by a colleague, imagine her in a silly hat. If the weather's awful, imagine a sunny day.
4. One way to achieve long-term positivity is to ask why you are thinking negatively. Are you frightened of what might happen in life - scared of being cut dead by friends, losing your job, splitting up with your partner? The answer is to face the fear, imagining what you would do and how you would cope if these things happened. Once you've faced up to your worst fear, it will automatically feel less scary and you'll be more able to cope.
怖いものほどかえって立ち向かっていくとそれほど怖いものではないということがわかる。自分が怖く感じられる相手（もの）のところへほど積極的に向かっていくと、ほほえましい結果が出て自分の成長が得られるかも。怖いと思って避けると
余計に怖さが増す。
5. Using constructive language can turn your negative thoughts around. Be aware of your words. Instead of thinking 'I can't', tell yourself how you can. Instead of saying, 'I regret' say, 'next time I will'. Instead of 'this is awful' tell yourself what opportunities there are in the situation.
建設的な言葉を使うとネガティブ思考を変えられる。自分の言葉づかいに気をつけていること。自分には無理だと考えるのではなく、どうしたら出来るかを自問すること。残念だ、というかわりに、この次はできる、といいなさい。これは酷いと
言わずに、この状況にどんないいチャンスがあるかについて自問すること。
３度目の正直。この次は安産さー、なんちゃって。病気じゃないもの。軽い軽い。
うーん、どうかな。とにかく毎日運動するのはいいことよ。
6. Learn to handle strong negative emotions. If you feel bad, don't bottle it up or push it down. Instead, work off the bad feeling with physical exercise. Calm yourself by relaxing and focusing on calming thoughts. Talk through your feelings with a friend or a professional counsellor.
7. Optimists take credit for the good things that happen, while putting the bad things down to coincidence, circumstance or mistake. Although you need to take responsibility for what goes on in your life - if something goes wrong, don't take all the blame. Focus on your successes and recognise your contribution to things that turn out well.
8. You won't feel positive if you spend most of your time doing things you hate. If you are in the wrong job, change it. If you are in the wrong relationship, move on. Make time each day to do activities you enjoy and to indulge yourself.
9. Don't let a tiny problem escalate into disaster. Immediately stop the downward spiral by injecting some positivity into the situation. Do something small that you know will succeed - such as a small specific task that you've done many times and that you know you are not going to fail at - this can be anything from making a cup of tea, writing an email or tidying a file. Let this sense of achievement boost you to take another, bigger step to success.
10. Research suggests that the more meaning you see in life, the easier you will find it to be positive. This doesn't necessarily mean having a religious faith - but it does mean having a sense that there is a plan, a point, a purpose to life. Spend time thinking about why you are here in this world - and then let that sense of purpose guide you.
Positive Thinking by Susan Quilliam (Dorling Kindersley, ˆ4.99)
後悔はしたくない。あの時ああしていればよかったのに、なんて。
来週から英語の講座を受けに行きます。外に出掛けた方がいいような気がして。
取りたいと思った講座の人数の最後の一人だったのでラッキーラッキー。大学生
気分で幸せ。IP電話もいいけれど、私にはオーソドックスでアナログな時間の流れがいいです。
子作りも、これが当たると来年の２月だぞ、とか言ってますが、気が早いですね。
まだ卵子がおりてきてなくて着床は難しいと思います。
もし産むとしたら太らないように気をつけて腹筋をつけます。禁煙できたことについては大いに○ということで。
ということで、今日立てる志は、腹筋毎日とりあえず20回。これはチェックしよう。
あまり気張ってまたがっくり落ち込まないように。
そういえば、昨日このあたりかなりどしゃぶりだったらしいですね。私は寝ていて
わかりませんでしたが、水泳に出掛けた息子がびしょぬれの服とぶっ壊れた傘を
持って帰ってきました。
蛸とキュウリとワカメのピリカラ酢の物がけっこう売れた。うちの人は酢の物嫌いなのかと思っていた。
