DiaryINDEX｜past｜will
| 2003年03月05日(水) | ベーコンと蕪のスープ |
主人も私もゆうべから風邪で喉をやられていたが、なんとか私はダウンは避けたい。
調子が悪いからといって、仕事をせずに貯めていても楽にはならないし。
ということで、今晩は、ちじみ。蕪とベーコンのコンソメスープ。
スープの具は、カリカリに焼いたベーコン、玉葱、人参、蕪、コーン、蕪の葉、
大根の葉、ジャガイモ、コンソメ、胡椒など。人参が赤、コーンが黄色、カブや
大根の葉っぱが緑ということで、三色スープ。塩加減はけっこうほどよかったと思う。
ちじみは旦那さんが作ってくれたのでどんな作り方かよくわからないけど、ニラが
たくさん入っていて、野菜が多い食事でよかった。ソースも美味しかった。
V,L,E,Tag
True health is more than the absence of disease. When healthy, your physical systems function harmoniously and your relationship with the world is filled with joy.
それにしても、子供と別れて暮らしていると、さびしいけれど、かえっていいこともあるみたいな気がした。父親に対する娘の気持ちとかが何となく解るような気がする。
Presently the divorce rate is increasing at an astounding rate, and a great many children and adolescents are growing up in a single parent environment
Children need their parents in order for them to develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. If the bond between the parent and the child is broken, negative consequences can result and can be traumatic for a child.
The games that are played between parents after the divorce can be overcome by the parents, but for the children issues like self-esteem and self-identity can be lost.
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Parents need to be a part of their children's lives. Divorce affects children in their school environment, their peers' environment, and their family structure. The family structure takes on a new definition, differing greatly from the traditional family structure. Many of the divorces are highly emotional and can draw children into conflict. Conflict weighs greatly on how the family functions as a unit. It is also apparent that children feel they are to blame for the separation. Children will go to great extents in order to gain back their normal family lifestyles.
How children react
The sad fact is that when people get divorced the separation between parent and child is inevitable, and how children react to this departure is probably one of the most important facets a parent is faced with. How children react is not seen on a day-to-day basis, it is seen throughout a lifetime. So, it is important for parents to keep close observations on how their children are coping and adjusting to the divorce.
Children will be questioning their feelings and it is the job of the parents to help guide their children through troubling times. Despite the fact that the child is living 'in a single parent family', it is critical that the child is able to talk to both parents openly. Trust is a key ingredient in establishing a healthy and emotionally sound child. This is truly what co-parenting is all about. Despite the fact that the change in the marriage has occurred, the responsibilities of the parent remain the same. The bond between two people as marriage partners has been broken, but the bond between the two as being parents has not been broken. It is still the responsibility of the parents to be parents.
石川啄木の初恋ってどんな詩だろう？
島崎藤村の初恋ってなかったかな？
まだあげそめし＠＠＠＠の花ある君とおもひけり
前髪の？
で、石川啄木の初恋の詩というのの検索を試みました。
一握の砂って石川啄木だった。うんうん。
あ、娘が、音楽のテストで石川啄木の詩を歌うというので。
検索してみましたが。うひゃあ、随分暗い詩だなあと思う。しかし思えば、
人を恋するというのは、結構暗い心持ちだったりする。
砂山の砂に腹這《はらば》ひ
初恋のいたみを遠くおもひ出《い》づる日
砂山の裾《すそ》によこたはる流木《りうぼく》に
あたり見まはし
物言《ものい》ひてみる
いのちなき砂のかなしさよ
さらさらと
握《にぎ》れば指のあひだより落つ．．（中略）
思えば子供の頃って結構暗かったよなあ。
年配の方が若々しく見えて、若者が暗く見えたりすることがあるが、これって
当たり前のことなのかもしれないな。
