Your soul mate is not someone who is identical to you. The Surveys' Results When committed couples were surveyed for degree of similarity/dissimilarity here were the results: Physical Beauty: people tend to mate with people who are generally considered the same degree of attractiveness. If you marry such person, you'll avoid a lot of conflicts and marriage problems that may otherwise ruin your relationship.

However, Phd's have marriage problems, too. Education: successful couples generally match up well in educational levels. Many people believe that finding a mate who is your opposite is like touching two electrical wires together. Ditch diggers don't do well with doctors, social types aren't happy with homebodies, and spendthrifts are always at odds with pinchpennys. Ivy Leaguers marry Ivy Leaguers. If they do manage to stay married, the relationship is usually fitful and argumentative. The very idea is exciting: you zig, he zags. People tend to marry and stay married to people with similar IQ's. So, happy BPHE couples in successful long-term relationships are not carbon copies of each other. Take a look at your own relationship.

Neither are they clones or mirror images. heat really seems to matter is not educational levels (grade levels or degrees) but intelligence. Just because opposites tend not to stay together, however, it doesn't mean you have to marry your clone to be happy. Here's the secret to a long and happy marriage: marry someone who is complementary. Family/Children: to a very high degree, happy couples are in agreement about whether to have children, or how many to have. Before you make any major commitments, be sure that you and your partner are in agreement over the big things. Class: yes, there are classes in America. But this excitement won't last long, and it won't be a good foundation for a happy marriage. But, when it comes to the major issues in a relationship, happily married couples are generally at a high level of agreement